Saturday, February 19, 2005

why women dont like men?

Most men HATE the idea of "rejection".A guy can psych himself up for an hour to go talk to a woman, but when the moment comes to actually DO IT, EVERYTHING changes.
The heart rate shoots up, breathing quickens, eyes dart back and forth, thoughts of rejection fill the mind, and eventually the pressure becomes too much to bare.Most men find this state so scary that they end up deciding to forget about approaching the women... just to end the discomfort.
The temptation is great to just "walk away", because just as quickly as the intense nervousness is triggered by the moment one decides to ACT, it goes away when you decide to "forget about it and walk away".The fact that "choosing to walk away" leads to
the "instant gratification" of the nervous feeling going away makes it the most popular option.Most of the time (and I'm talking about probably 99% of the time here) men just walk away. They give
up before they've even started.
I think it's important to realize that there's a BIG difference between ACTUAL rejection (having a girl who is offended, upset, rude, etc. to you when you start talking to her) and the FEAR of rejection (how you feel when you imagine a woman rejecting you). The main reason for this is that most of the time when a man starts talking to a woman, she is actually rather nice about the whole affair.Men aren't "rejected" very often!If a woman isn't interested, she usually just says "I have a boyfriend" or "No thank you"... or she'll just walk away without saying anything at all.You can experience an intense FEAR of rejection EVERY time you consider approaching a woman.

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION...
If you get "rejected", you'll be fine.It's no big deal, and it doesn't happen that often.And when it does, you'll recover shortly thereafter.You'll find yourself telling your friends about it, and laughing together. Rejection from a woman is about as painful as getting a "D" on a test.If you can overcome your imaginary FEAR of rejection, you'll be on your way.
WHY WOMEN REJECT MEN...
Now let's talk about those rare instances where a woman actually REJECTS a man.I do NOT consider a woman walking away without
stopping to talk to you, her saying "No thank you", or any other time when a woman just simply doesn't engage to be "rejection".
1. The guy isn't paying attention, and he does something stupid to begin with.Some guys don't see anything wrong with following
a woman around all night, staring at her constantly, then walking over with a nervous, sweaty-palmed, stalkerish look and saying "You remind me of my sister".
2. The guy doesn't stop when he should.If two women are sitting alone at a table in the corner, and one of them is obviously upset, and you walk over to them and say "Hi, can I buy you a drink?"... and the upset one looks at you and says "No thanks, we're in the middle of a conversation" (then looks away from you back at her friend)... and you say "Aw, cummon, have a drink. You need to lighten up and have some fun"... and she looks back at you and says firmly "We're busy"... and you say "What, are you in a bad
mood or something? I'm just trying to buy you a drink"... and she says "We don't want a drink"... and you say "Well maybe your friend does"... and the friend says "No, I don't want one either"...
3. Making a woman nervous with your body language.If you start talking to a woman, but your posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, and you're wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt with one of the tails tucked in, you're
probably not going to get a favorable response.
4. Not understanding a woman's body language and other
communication.

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Bye vinod

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